This year, besides setting my goals and intentions in January, I also chose a word for the year to focus on. The word I chose was, Empower. I chose this word because of the work I do. As a wellness coach, I want to empower women to live their best lives. As a children’s nutrition and wellness educator I work with young girls and I want to empower them to believe in themselves and know their worth.
As I decided to empower others I realized, I also needed to empower myself. So, this has now become my mission for 2019. As I’m empowering and lifting others up, I’m learning to do it for myself as well. Because the truth is it all starts with our own mindset and belief about ourselves.
So how can we work on empowering ourselves. We first start by understanding and knowing our self-worth. We are worthy of good things. We have the knowledge to gain the promotion, get the job, help others, give the speech, teach the workshop. We have a right to be in the room and at the table. I think as women, oftentimes we act small instead of chasing the big dreams.
What happens if we go after the big dreams? What happens if we decide to shine? Will someone judge us? Maybe. Will others try to talk us out of it? Probably. But does that mean we shouldn’t have it? Absolutely NOT! We all have talents and purpose that we should fulfill. When we aren’t doing that then we feel sad, depressed, angry, resentful, and the list could go on.
It’s time to chase those dreams and goals. Start by making a list of all your strengths. Write down what you love to do, what makes you happy, and what you’re good at. Then compare that with the goal list you made at the beginning of the year. If you didn’t make a goal list, this is probably the time to do it. Next ask yourself if you are really living the way you want. Are you working at a job you love? Are you in the right position? Are you speaking up and contributing? Are there any changes you can make to participate more at work or at home or in your relationships?
Speaking of relationships, there are ones that empower us and those that make us feel less than we are. Do you have supportive relationships? Are you surrounded by those that want to see you succeed and cheer you on? Yes, we must believe in ourselves, but one way to get there is having others believe in us too. Being with those that genuinely care about our well-being makes it easier to handle the rejections and hard times. When empowering yourself, also remember to empower your squad. And if they aren’t empowering you, maybe we should have a chat.
One last tip, if you haven’t read You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero, then I strongly suggest you purchase it immediately. This book helps us identify those limiting beliefs and behaviors that stop us and how we can change them by learning to love ourselves and create the life we want. It is up to each one of us to have the courage to be happy and empowered.
As the late, great Whitney Houston said “learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all”